5 Positive Reinforcement Strategies You Can Use at Home
Why Positive Reinforcement Works
Positive reinforcement is one of the most well-researched principles in all of behavioral science. At its core, it is simple: when a behavior is followed immediately by something the person finds rewarding, that behavior becomes more likely to happen again.
This is not a theory — it is a fundamental law of behavior, supported by thousands of studies across populations, settings, and ages.
"Positive reinforcement is the most powerful tool available to change human behavior." Cooper, Heron and Heward, Applied Behavior Analysis, 3rd ed. (2020)
The key word is positive — it means we are adding something valued, not removing something unpleasant. And it must be immediate and consistent, especially when a child is first learning a new skill.
What Counts as a Reinforcer?
A reinforcer is anything that increases the future likelihood of a behavior. This varies from child to child. Common reinforcers include:
- Verbal praise
- Preferred foods or snacks
- Screen time or preferred toys
- Physical affection such as hugs or high fives
- Special one-on-one time
BCBAs use preference assessments to identify what truly motivates each individual, rather than guessing. (Fisher et al., 1992, Journal of Applied Behavior Analysis)
5 Strategies to Use at Home
1. Specific, Labeled Praise
General praise like "good job" is less effective than specific praise that labels exactly what the child did right.
Try this: "I love how you put your shoes on all by yourself - that was amazing!"
Research shows that labeled praise increases on-task behavior and is one of the most efficient, low-cost tools available to parents and teachers. (Sutherland, Wehby and Copeland, 2000)
2. Token Economy Systems
A token economy is a structured system where a child earns tokens (stickers, chips, checkmarks) for desired behaviors and exchanges them for a larger reward.
Why it works: It bridges the gap between a behavior and a reward that may not be immediately available, teaching delayed gratification and goal-directed behavior.
How to set it up:
- Choose 1 to 3 simple target behaviors
- Decide how many tokens equal a reward
- Use a visible chart so the child can track progress
- Start with a low token count and gradually increase
Token economies have decades of research support across classroom and home settings. (Kazdin, 1982)
3. First/Then Statements
"First homework, then 20 minutes of your favorite game."
This strategy, known as Premack's Principle, uses a preferred activity as a natural motivator to complete a less preferred one. It works because it is clear, predictable, and avoids power struggles. Visual first/then boards are especially helpful for children who benefit from visual supports.
4. Offering Choices
Giving children structured choices within non-negotiables reduces resistance and increases compliance.
- "Do you want to take a bath before or after dinner?"
- "Do you want to use the red toothbrush or the blue one?"
Both options lead to the same outcome, but the child feels a sense of autonomy. Research shows that choice-making significantly reduces challenging behavior and increases task engagement. (Shogren et al., 2004, Journal of Positive Behavior Interventions)
5. Catch Them Being Good
Many parents unintentionally pay more attention to misbehavior than good behavior, which can inadvertently reinforce the very behaviors they want to reduce.
Make a deliberate effort to actively look for and acknowledge positive behavior throughout the day, even small things:
- "I noticed you waited so patiently - thank you."
- "You shared with your sister without being asked. That makes me so happy."
This shifts the family dynamic from reactive to proactive and builds a stronger, more positive relationship.
A Note on Consistency
Positive reinforcement is most effective when it is:
- Immediate - given right after the behavior, not minutes later
- Consistent - every caregiver in the home uses the same approach
- Contingent - only given when the target behavior actually occurs
Inconsistency is one of the most common barriers to progress. When possible, share strategies with teachers, grandparents, and other caregivers.
References
- Cooper, J. O., Heron, T. E., and Heward, W. L. (2020). Applied Behavior Analysis (3rd ed.). Pearson.
- Fisher, W., Piazza, C. C., Bowman, L. G., Hagopian, L. P., Owens, J. C., and Slevin, I. (1992). A comparison of two approaches for identifying reinforcers for persons with severe and profound disabilities. Journal of Applied Behavior Analysis, 25(2), 491-498.
- Kazdin, A. E. (1982). The token economy: A decade later. Journal of Applied Behavior Analysis, 15(3), 431-445.
- Shogren, K. A., Faggella-Luby, M. N., Bae, S. J., and Wehmeyer, M. L. (2004). The effect of choice-making as an intervention for problem behavior. Journal of Positive Behavior Interventions, 6(4), 228-237.
- Sutherland, K. S., Wehby, J. H., and Copeland, S. R. (2000). Effect of varying rates of behavior-specific praise on the on-task behavior of students with EBD. Journal of Emotional and Behavioral Disorders, 8(1), 2-8.
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